You want me to do what to yourself…??!!

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Single on a Saturday: Casual sex done right!

Picture it:

You spend the night at your house with a friend. Going through the wine..and whatever other contraband you enjoy..then comes bed time..pick whichever time works for you- 1am…7am…what ever. The rest is good. Ah yes…score to the single gal…or guy. That at home nookie is great. No worries about a cab or cover or waiting in line. No need to create a pick up plan. That friend is in your home. Drinking with you…and then you bed.

Then you get up. The other side is empty.

For the most part you breathe fresh air, happy that you didn’t have to kick anyone out…but then you hear the water. Perhaps it’s the shower…even better…it’s the kitchen sink. Your dishes are being washed!!!

You were not only graciously laid, you didn’t even have to clean up after last night. 

Seriously awesome.

This is not an anomaly. It is happening.  I highly doubt it’s a regular thing, but it’s a thing. I have had experiences, and I know others that have. Their regular casual booties might straighten up the living room, clean up after the binge and /or do the dishes. 

Finding out how often this happens could be a great research project...right now I'm just calling it  an extension to my previous edition on Booty Call Etiquette. I guess it can be referred to as the Morning After Etiquette....yes...genius. (I am coining phrases that might never catch on....pass them on..!!)

Morning after etiquette works in all situations but its nice when there is a regular visitor (perhaps someone in your little black book) that cares enough to clean up after themselves on their way out. It could be their way of not leaving any evidence behind or their way of saying thanks for the bed. Maybe it's just a thanks for the sex. Whatever the case may be, they know they are on your list and that small gesture bumps them up to the top.

 Plus, at this point, it is a beneficial friends situation-- you only hang out when you want to have sex with them. Friends-with- Benefits puts the friend part first. In this situation the benefits come first. You call each other when horny and you go to dinner or just chill and watch movies...basically there are activities and then there is sex. The sex is going to come no matter what-- but you do stuff together to get the date going like true friends. 

Getting back to it..since your friendship is based on decent good times that happen occasionally, cleaning up the morning after should become a standard. It's not like you're sneaking out and hoping not to wake the person. You're planning on seeing this person again at some point. Make them want you back and, for those on the other side, use the morning after etiquette to rate your little black book. 

When casual sex is done right--all the way to the method of exiting the situation--then the beneficial friendship takes on a whole new 'no-strings-attached' level....a positive move. Single folk its time to make this a thing!!

Good vs Bad Kiss

Thanks to my girl Ashii...here is a picture worth 1000words that best represents The Case of the Bad Kiss.

Pump and go!

I'm dropping new lingo for you folks yet again....I use the term pump and go often...take a couple of guesses as to what it is about...I am sure you do not need that much time to figure out that this is probably just a different way of saying booty call....or maybe you you didn't and I just ruined the mystique...sorry.

Ah yes the pump and go. This was a tag created many sunsets ago when I was in my second year of university. Some friends I and were lazy-ing about one post-pubnight Friday in the Vanier Res Common Room when a commercial came on for the Shell Speed Pass...it's like the Mobil speedpass where you just have to tap the stick on a sensor to pay and then you can leave.

The commercials closer was "you just have to pump and go". Naturally we looked at each other and laughed. That became the new saying- Just Pump...and Go. The "Wham bam thank you ma'am/sam" for the 21st Century!! Now I use it all the time. With the commercial off the air it just seems like a nice witty saying. Not related to the gas at all.

So take that and have some fun with it. Remember all you have to do is "Pump... and Go"


I could not find the original "Pump and Go" ad so just enjoy these semi-related ones ;)

Booty Call Etiquette

I woke up this fine New Years Day afternoon and heard a grumble in my tummy. Naturally I was not in the mood for cooking...or reheating. Then it occurred to me: that guest that left should have come over with food.

I think this should be customary booty call etiquette. Bring a snack for the morning....well the afternoon...after. It's like bringing a gift for the host/ess. Show up at the calls door with a sandwich, a pizza, something!  Or maybe it should be the caller should bring the food for the call-ee....Nah, I want food brought over.

I'll supply other goods and beverages, but someone needs to bring over a snack. Something to help me recover after using all of that energy.

I don't want this to turn into a dinner date though. It needs to be an afterglow snack saved for after the guest leaves. 

Let me know if this is a trend that picks up...give it a try.

Happy New Year...may 2014 bring great changes ;)

Cock-goggles..it's a thing!!!

Many years ago in my York U days a friend of mine passed on a term: cockgoggles

Yes

C O C K -  G O G G L E S

What does this mighty fine word mean? Well it's the situation that occurs when someone that loves having sex with a penis hasn't had any in a while. You look around and all things attached to a penis start to look good. If you had standards in men before, they go out the window since you are blinded by desire and need.

Look at it like this: when you drink shit loads you get beer goggles. You'll fuck anything that walks- that's how one night stands are made.

The same works with cockgoggles. Everyone has the limit of how long they can last without the tasty goodness of the cock-ular variety. Then you get drunk...drunk your needs..those natural, human needs. And every cock looks good.

Also how one nighters are made. Hell in some cases it leads to daytime sex in the back of a bread truck. Not judging...just saying....you have to be aware and fulfil those needs before it gets to the bread truck.

Unless of course that is your thing ;)

Sexy Time!!

Its that time of year and I’m excited. Sellers from all over will be in town to get their sexy sales on. I'll be there later tonight to browse the goods. For more info visit everythingtodowithsex.com @The_Sex_Show

Celebrate WCD with Intense Sensation

So today marks another World Contraception Day. This day was set to make sure youth knew their birth control options, but it is a good idea for everyone to be thinking about contraception and the prevention of unwanted pregnancies.

There are many options available to women and men in Canada, but the easiest and least expensive would be condoms. These come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Some are ribbed while others have twisty patterns. They do not all fit the same- well not all penises (or penis toys) are the same.

When men feel that the condom is too tight, you gotta respect their sensitivities and give them something to work with. Many people turn to larger condoms like the Magnum from Trojan or multiple 54+mm options offered by Durex. Sometimes, however,  the whole condom does not have to be larger- just the head.

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In those cases I recommend Trojan's Intense. So far it receives the most support from people that I have suggested it to. The condom shaft is a normal size, but the head is much larger. This provides greater comfort for men who feel that regular condoms are just too tight at the top. The looseness of the head material also adds to their sensation.

If these are too tight in the shaft then by all means get a larger condom, but if you just need a little head room then go for these. If the condom itself is too big you run the risk of having it fall off. Nobody likes that worry!!

Have a very happy World Contraception Day!

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Want to know more about contraceptive options in Canada? Check out sexualityandu.ca

More about World Contraception Day ca be found at: http://www.your-life.com/en/home/media-center/world-contraception-day/

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