Picture it:
You spend the night at your house with a friend. Going
through the wine..and whatever other contraband you enjoy..then comes bed
time..pick whichever time works for you- 1am…7am…what ever. The rest is good. Ah
yes…score to the single gal…or guy. That at home nookie is great. No worries
about a cab or cover or waiting in line. No need to create a pick up plan. That
friend is in your home. Drinking with you…and then you bed.
Then you get up. The other side is empty.
For the most part you breathe fresh air, happy that you didn’t
have to kick anyone out…but then you hear the water. Perhaps it’s the shower…even
better…it’s the kitchen sink. Your dishes are being washed!!!
You were not only graciously laid, you didn’t even have to
clean up after last night.
Seriously awesome.
This is not an anomaly. It is happening. I highly doubt it’s a regular thing, but it’s a thing. I
have had experiences, and I know others that have. Their regular casual booties might straighten up the living room, clean up after the binge and /or do the
dishes.
Finding out how often this happens could be a great research project...right now I'm just calling it an extension to my previous edition on Booty Call Etiquette. I guess it can be referred to as the Morning After Etiquette....yes...genius. (I am coining phrases that might never catch on....pass them on..!!)
Morning after etiquette works in all situations but its nice when there is a regular visitor (perhaps someone in your little black book) that cares enough to clean up after themselves on their way out. It could be their way of not leaving any evidence behind or their way of saying thanks for the bed. Maybe it's just a thanks for the sex. Whatever the case may be, they know they are on your list and that small gesture bumps them up to the top.
Plus, at this point, it is a beneficial friends situation-- you only hang out when you want to have sex with them. Friends-with- Benefits puts the friend part first. In this situation the benefits come first. You call each other when horny and you go to dinner or just chill and watch movies...basically there are activities and then there is sex. The sex is going to come no matter what-- but you do stuff together to get the date going like true friends.
Getting back to it..since your friendship is based on decent good times that happen occasionally, cleaning up the morning after should become a standard. It's not like you're sneaking out and hoping not to wake the person. You're planning on seeing this person again at some point. Make them want you back and, for those on the other side, use the morning after etiquette to rate your little black book.
When casual sex is done right--all the way to the method of exiting the situation--then the beneficial friendship takes on a whole new 'no-strings-attached' level....a positive move. Single folk its time to make this a thing!!
