Single on a Saturday: The Fraser Moment

So this Saturday I realized I have a 'Cheers' again. It started with the RPM and then many years ago it was the Open End Pub in between classes..then it was Thursdays at Two Cats...I tried for Saturdays at Eat my Martini, but no dance floor. Now its Brooklynn Bar (no specific day or time since I really only have Saturday eves off--worky worky all other times). I don't know everyone's name yet, and I'm still the obnoxious drunk chick with the skirt that is too short for such a casual atmosphere. I don't care. I've partied in this  city for over 20 years and, recently, I've had a hard time finding a place with a good vibe and a dance floor.

I wondered why this was important. Well it's simple: I like being in a place that I know I am guaranteed a good time. I don't know if this is a single thing, an age thing or just a social thing. I guess it can be a single thing because I would know what to expect in terms of picking up and I know that I can make an ass out of myself one night, but have the ability to redeem myself  in future outings. I like the idea that I might have a place that people know where to find me. I think having a regular bar is the only committed relationship in my life.....but is it cheating if I wanna go someplace else?

d) all of the above

So I was watching some crappy amateur porn and they had the same bedsheets as me...now is the issue:
a) I am watching crappy amateur porn;
b) Porn people buy their sheets at Ikea
c) I have the same taste in bedsheets as someone that makes porn

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An app for that

Oh yes the gracious fertility app.  I was a bit of a skeptic at first. I work in sexual health education and counselling and I feel as though the app forces women to put their faith in technology not learn what they need to know about tracking their fertility. 

I have been moving up from my old school ways and starting to rely on technology for a lot of the sexual health stuff I discuss. It started with referring websites to letting women on the Nuvaring know that they have an ap for that. I figured this was a way for those with true organizational difficulty to keep track of their birth control.

Well I have decided to do more research into these fertility trackers. I am an ethnographic type of researcher so I simply joined a group of many women and have downloaded the Fertility Friend. There is actually more to it than expected. It does give an option to enter the cervical fluid, spotting, dates of intercourse, and temperature. If you take it seriously and add something everyday it could be really useful.
I think it also gives women a chance to realize that natural family planning is not simply marking your period on a calendar or just avoiding sex right before you think your period may come. (heehee...that one makes me laugh). Don't get me wrong- I do not support condom free sex unless you are willing to accept what ever choices follow. I do support avoiding getting pregnant when you are not ready.

So I'm going to use this thing. It means I can just put things into my phone without having to write it down. Give me about three months and we'll see how it goes...any suggestions send them my way: @msnicolesbits