Single on a Saturday: Casual sex done right!

Picture it:

You spend the night at your house with a friend. Going through the wine..and whatever other contraband you enjoy..then comes bed time..pick whichever time works for you- 1am…7am…what ever. The rest is good. Ah yes…score to the single gal…or guy. That at home nookie is great. No worries about a cab or cover or waiting in line. No need to create a pick up plan. That friend is in your home. Drinking with you…and then you bed.

Then you get up. The other side is empty.

For the most part you breathe fresh air, happy that you didn’t have to kick anyone out…but then you hear the water. Perhaps it’s the shower…even better…it’s the kitchen sink. Your dishes are being washed!!!

You were not only graciously laid, you didn’t even have to clean up after last night. 

Seriously awesome.

This is not an anomaly. It is happening.  I highly doubt it’s a regular thing, but it’s a thing. I have had experiences, and I know others that have. Their regular casual booties might straighten up the living room, clean up after the binge and /or do the dishes. 

Finding out how often this happens could be a great research project...right now I'm just calling it  an extension to my previous edition on Booty Call Etiquette. I guess it can be referred to as the Morning After Etiquette....yes...genius. (I am coining phrases that might never catch on....pass them on..!!)

Morning after etiquette works in all situations but its nice when there is a regular visitor (perhaps someone in your little black book) that cares enough to clean up after themselves on their way out. It could be their way of not leaving any evidence behind or their way of saying thanks for the bed. Maybe it's just a thanks for the sex. Whatever the case may be, they know they are on your list and that small gesture bumps them up to the top.

 Plus, at this point, it is a beneficial friends situation-- you only hang out when you want to have sex with them. Friends-with- Benefits puts the friend part first. In this situation the benefits come first. You call each other when horny and you go to dinner or just chill and watch movies...basically there are activities and then there is sex. The sex is going to come no matter what-- but you do stuff together to get the date going like true friends. 

Getting back to it..since your friendship is based on decent good times that happen occasionally, cleaning up the morning after should become a standard. It's not like you're sneaking out and hoping not to wake the person. You're planning on seeing this person again at some point. Make them want you back and, for those on the other side, use the morning after etiquette to rate your little black book. 

When casual sex is done right--all the way to the method of exiting the situation--then the beneficial friendship takes on a whole new 'no-strings-attached' level....a positive move. Single folk its time to make this a thing!!

Spring Fever is on!!

March 20 marked the first day of spring and, of course, the onset of the best illness ever—SPRING FEVER!

What is spring fever? well it is a commonly known time of the year when everything mates. I mean everything…birds, dogs, cats, people, bears..etc. There is this vibe in the air that you might not realize but suddenly you feel like meeting and mingling. You feel more encouraged to try out your pick up technique….or at least develop a plan.

This is an actual researched thing. The overriding theory is that as the warmer weather makes people feel a little more sexual. Their libido is in gear and taking over.

Spring fever can be an out- of- the- blue act-- where someone you haven’t spoken to in a while, but really enjoyed, messages you out of the blue to catch up. You probably haven’t seen them since last spring, and did not care to meet up with them for the whole year, but now you need to go for drinks with this person and your damn happy they reconnected.

Perhaps you are the out- of- the- bluer and not the bluee. You were sitting around thinking about the great dick/BJ/ tight hole/etc and thought “I wonder what that person is up to now?” It didn’t matter before, but you gotta get on Facebook and give a poke.

Not sure if this is spring fever or if you genuinely want to hang out with this person?  You know its spring fever when its: 1) March-May, 2)You don’t care to see a picture,  3)You suddenly start salivating from your genitals for no good reason (this one is very much a female indicator).

Is Spring Fever a problem? I think this all depends. It is really about how you feel about sex. I like the idea of letting loose once in a while to help release some mighty delicious hormones and for relaxation. It is also quite nice to have that skin to skin contact. Not just for relaxation but to feel positive. You might also like getting close to that significant person in your life- sure you’re probably charging at them in the most horny way, but deep down you love them and are happy to make them your spring fever (and life) focus.

Of course if you’re a sex addict this could be the worst time of the year. Not enough people to sleep with and its hard to fight the power. At this point seek your support network (you should have a sponsor if this is an addiction you want to kick).

Otherwise, have fun with it. Remember fertility and Venereal Diseases do not take a break in spring...stay protected..unless of course fertility and VD interests you ;)

Check out: Spring Fever is Here, Self Magazine: http://www.self.com/blogs/flash/2011/04/spring-fever-is-here-how-to-bo.html 

Single on a Saturday: Damn you day job

After last weekends mighty rush, I opted to stay home this time. I like how that sounds as though I made an adult choice...nope. I had to get work done. Until I make a  career out of this blog, I have to focus on my bread and butter--a job that I only slighty enjoy in a company that I am not sure I like at all....Well the cabin fever will set in soon and you'll get an amazing post when the animal gets released...until then...

Single on a Saturday: Cabin Fever!!!!!!!

So I decided that this weekend I'm going to work on my actual job. It was one of those sacrifices that I had to make. I don't like my day job very much. Well let me correct and specify- I don't like the technical and administrative bullshit that my job requires, but I like what I do. Unfortunately, its those things that I hate, that I tend to procrastinate on. So this weekend I had to catch up.

It was a good idea since it was the Sat before Halloween and that means you have to go all out in costume and such. That means more time spent fixing up. So it only made sense for me to lock myself away and do the bits that I needed to.

On the bright size I met with my producer (I'll just keep calling her Roz) and we're working out a plan to get the radio and magazine article angle. Then I can cut back on my day job...whooppeee!!!! That would give me time to focus on my writing.

I cannot keep having these kinds of worthless- stuck-at-home Saturdays!!! I'll always be single at that rate.

If it means anything I had some tasty delivery Sunday night....so I'm still satisfied ;)