Child Bride Mother

Here is an interesting article that was sent my way. Poor self esteem and poverty are never a good mix.


Child, Bride, Mother
By STEPHANIE SINCLAIR

http://nyti.ms/1Ij7EOD

Single on a Saturday: Yes you need permission to touch me!

It's been a long time since my last post....well back to it!!! 

Sat night I went to a watering hole on College St...would not have been my first pick, but I was out with a friend and she said the music was good and I trust her judgement. I'm sure it would be, but it's the crowd I hate ... You know the types that hang in that district...Pushy,  Greasy, Handsey....wearing baseball caps....argh..

I'm sure it was great when I was 15yrs younger, and wasted before I left my apartment, but....

Getting back to it, I was standing at the bar and a guy comes up from behind me, puts his arm around me and says 'hey cutie'.... I responded with, 'do i know you?'. This moved into a conversation about how I'm weird because he needs permission to touch my shoulders...

Of course my friend steps in and makes up some girlie excuse about how I'm sweaty so that's why it's annoying. I was quick to let them both know I'm not going to a apologize for not wanting him to touch me. It's the principle of it.

How hard is it too respect someone enough to walk up their face and say hello?
This idiot even had the nerve to tell me he's a lawyer so I should be ok with that... And my friend is giggling along. Makes me wonder if I am unusual...nevermind...I know I'm not unusual for thinking that this was bullshit. I hang out at a lot of places and I'll be honest... Swingers clubs are the safest.

They have the idea of respect down and it is reiterated with every entry. It is enforced by patrons and staff a like. A men would know better than to do that and the ones that do not get it are reprimanded in some way.... Usually by getting kicked out. It's just a safer place for a single girl who hates negative, insulting partiers and likes to dance and isn't looking to pick up. I have been noticing this more and more, and find myself hanging out at Toronto's swing venues more often.

You don't even need to go for sex. Odd but true...you just gotta be open minded and comfortable around nudity. Places like M4 on Lakeshore Ave W have fully stocked bars and an amazing repertoire of cocktails. Hell, some times I just tell the bartender to make me something nice. I can get my dance on as there is usually a DJ and people say  hi before grabbing at me (or risk losing their party privileges). I'm not vilified or infantalized for hating when someone touches me without permission. It's just a more mature crowd for the most part and that's what I need for my time out! I'm not spending money so I can be treated like some 21 yr old ditz... I'm more than a decade off of that and I have no desire to go back.


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