Single on a Saturday: Thursday and Beyond

Well here is the next chapter in what it means to be single in a world of  attached friends ...it actually begins with hanging with another single...

Lets take a step back to Thursday- It Ain't Easy at Sneaky Dee's. A pretty inexpesive party on Thursday night...with cheesy and old skool tunes. I had to call up the Roz to my Fraser for this party. That's right, two single gals sharing jokes on a Thursday night. I had work the next day so it wasn't a hardcore night, but it was still a blast. The music was awesome, the crowd was 20-30, and the pick up radars were on!!

Note to men- don't touch me or attempt any form of skin contact until you have met aome approval!  This would have to be my only complaint for the night, but maybe I should not complain. Maybe I should go along with the unsexy slurrs of a man with bad breath and hope for the best at the end of the night.

Nope. I was not interested. I was happy to just enjoy the night off of working...and doing cheesy dance moves to some S-Club tune that I would never hear on any other club night. Fun cheesy times....Thursday went well.

Saturday was hot. It begins with attending the High Society Cabaret at the Courthouse. A friend's beau was performing in this sexy burlesque with the ladies from DivaGirl Fitness. There were sequins and boobies and clothes on the floor. A wonderfully delicious way to spend a few hours.

Then it was off to Stone's Place on Queen Street. I gotta say it wasn't as busy as usual, but the sexy man factor was through the roof. I'm thinkkng and drooling, was it ever a sausagefest at Stone's this Sat!! Better eye candy than usual...and the right age. I find, though, that when I go out and party with my attached lady friends I tend to do more watching that flirting...I did do some talking...but I think it is something that I can work on the next time I go back to Stone's.  Note to self: reread book on flirting for test at Stone's next visit...

Oh what a weekend to be happy to be single...if it wasn't for work on Friday, Saturday and Monday I probably would have OD'd on good times.....thanks work...........

Celebrate WCD with Intense Sensation

So today marks another World Contraception Day. This day was set to make sure youth knew their birth control options, but it is a good idea for everyone to be thinking about contraception and the prevention of unwanted pregnancies.

There are many options available to women and men in Canada, but the easiest and least expensive would be condoms. These come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Some are ribbed while others have twisty patterns. They do not all fit the same- well not all penises (or penis toys) are the same.

When men feel that the condom is too tight, you gotta respect their sensitivities and give them something to work with. Many people turn to larger condoms like the Magnum from Trojan or multiple 54+mm options offered by Durex. Sometimes, however,  the whole condom does not have to be larger- just the head.

Visit Trojancondoms.com for more info

In those cases I recommend Trojan's Intense. So far it receives the most support from people that I have suggested it to. The condom shaft is a normal size, but the head is much larger. This provides greater comfort for men who feel that regular condoms are just too tight at the top. The looseness of the head material also adds to their sensation.

If these are too tight in the shaft then by all means get a larger condom, but if you just need a little head room then go for these. If the condom itself is too big you run the risk of having it fall off. Nobody likes that worry!!

Have a very happy World Contraception Day!

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Want to know more about contraceptive options in Canada? Check out sexualityandu.ca

More about World Contraception Day ca be found at: http://www.your-life.com/en/home/media-center/world-contraception-day/

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After Tiller

Last spring during the annual Hot Docs Festival I was lucky to view the movie "After Tiller". Named after the famous Dr. George Tiller (murdered in 2009), it documents the life of doctors that do late term abortions and goes slightly into undersatnding their patients. No matter what side of the choice you are on, it cannot be denied that this movie is an eye opener.

Something that is not mentioned is that many Canadian women go to these clinics as well. Third trimester abortion doctors do not exist in Canada. Ontario has the highest limit at 24 weeks (6 months). Women that want/need to terminate a pregnancy after that (either out of medical necessity or mental health) will most likely find themselves having to go to the United States to one of the doctors in the documentary.  Sometimes they have the option of inducing contractions and birthing a still born. This all depends on timing and any medical issues.

The documentary does not go into detail about this, but it does point out some interesting stuggles for the doctors and the patients. Overall a very well filmed doc that I think should be viewed by anyone wanting to know more about late term abortions. It'll make you feel something- sad, happy, stressed...-something.

If you wanna see it, After Tiller will be at  Bloor Hot Docs Cinema on October 4, 2013.

A Little Nut Check

Men are important. Oddly enough they are very well known for not getting their health checks regularly. Although I encourage annual physicals for everyone, I also encourage people to do be aware of their health issues. So men this one is for you.

Check your nuts regularly!!! According to the Canadian Cancer society, testicular cancer hits men 15-29 more than any other cancer. So you gotta seriously fondle the jewels once in a while so you find the signs sooner. The sooner you detect issues the better off you are!! I'm all about making sure the men have healthy nuts- so here are the steps:

1.Find a warm...personal place. Shower is the best.
2. Feel around your bits ...heehee..ahem..I mean testicular area. Doesn't have to be too rough, you're just feeling for anything out of place.
3.No here is the important step--> If you feel any pain, lumpy bits, all around discomfort see a doctor.

Don't be ashamed- health is better than rotting nuts.

This video explains it all with a catchy tune.
Nutiquette: a dude's guy to checkin his balls (http://youtu.be/k3Cd2lvQlN4)

You can also visit the Canadian Cancer Society website for more info (www.cancer.ca)

Single on a Saturday: The Pilot

I'm convinced my expectations are too high for this city. Last night was just another edition in my disappointment with ways to spend a Saturday night. I love my friends, but I'm realizing that even the single ones have a different expectation of their night. I rarely have Saturdays off so when I do I can get things done during the day and go out like a free bird at night. This makes it important...I'm not interested in spending it running around looking for a party and I'm not satisfied with just simply leaving my home. This isn't high school. My 'rents aren't around irritating me so I can actually stay home or at least in my area. I live near pubs and entertainment....crawling distance from my bed.

That leads to another issue- if I have to travel (mainly on the transit) to go somewhere there better be something worth my time at the end of trip. Otherwise I could just walk to something in my area. I think this is what is going to happen.

Last night I was told there was a party I can crash in an area that is about a 45min trip away. This is where the miscommunication occurs....I hear party, I think dancing, drinks flirting...not chain pub north of the strip. So already the night has taken a sour turn. To make matters worse- its a birthday dinner for someone I don't know with 40 of her closest friends that I also did not know.

Don't get me wrong. I love wing places, I love UFC fights, I love all of that. But I was not set up for that....I was not interested in: not listening to music, sitting in a crowded corner where my chair gets pushed in every 10 mins, or putting on nice clothes to sit. It's uncomfortable and I do better with my eve just staying home...call a few people over....

But that is not what I was looking for. I did not care for the fight, I just wanted drinks and dancing in a mature atmosphere. And I didn't feel like hanging at home, hence going out. I needed a place to go and shake my booty.....preferably against someone...

We couldn't come up with one and the usual standbys were charging a cover...cover to get into what otherwise is a restaurant! So stupid. I think it is time for me to do my re-con before I start asking friends to come out on a Sat night. I have to find what I like and make it a suggestion.

hmm..maybe I should call this Solo on a Saturday....

Wonder-Rings

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An Unsexy Bit

So you ever wonder what happens to your facebook photos when you post them? Well they can be offered up to anyone that wants them. This issue has occured with a photo of Rehtaeh Parsons. For those that do not know. This teen was a victim of bullying after videos of her having sexual contact (while unable to consent) surfaced online. She was teased and then committed suicide.

Well a dating site was able to get a hold of her picture and use it in an ad.

Read:
Family outraged after Rehtaeh Parsons photo appears in dating ad on Facebook
http://www.thestar.com/news/gta/2013/09/17/family_outraged_after_rehtaeh_parsons_photo_appears_in_dating_ad_on_facebook.html

This is the utmost of bad taste and yet another edition in the story of the disrespect of a young woman.  Why have we as a society said that this is ok? If you're thinking you didn't say it was ok, you're wrong. The "it can't happen to me so i'm just going to let it slide" attitude is what led to her suicide in the first place. Get angry and let at least one person know that this is wrong!