Stop the victimization

Here is a cute list of what not to do so that women do not get raped....notice how it turns back to the perp! (as it should be)

Rape should not be ok

We seem to have more of an issue with people breaking into cars than we do with people breaking into vagina's...

A few weeks ago it came out that Jian Ghomeshi possibly sexually assaulted someone. Dodgy things began to happen: He was fired from a unionized company and filed law suit through a private firm. He created an apology on his facebook page explaining how his behaviour was confused and that it was just him playing out BDSM fantasies and all the complainants were basically liers.
and then it began

the onslaught...the side picking...the bullshit

people defending him because he is a misunderstood sadist....

people defending him because women deserve it..

and then it grew

It expanded into a whole idea of  rape being under reported and poorly supported by the legal system.

And then I read something that brought me back to me.

The Man who killed his daughter's rapist: http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-29901304

Yes. That is the only solution. Rape is under reported, but even if all were reported the results would be that great anyway.  There is always someone out there trying to discredit the victim. No matter the age, the defence is always that the victim did something to lead the other person on.

It is not logical, but it is happening.

There is only one equally logical response to this. Kill rapists.

I'm not joking. Kill the people that steal your soul and invade your sexuality. The legal way is not reliable. Let us review the stats:


Basically 3 assaults will find justice. And of course this probably does not apply to male victims and many different types of women.

So now can we talk murder?

I saw this chopping machine thing on Youtube that crushed a couch into nothing. We could toss them in there.I have a full plan.

The victim would call a hotline and a counsellor and crew would be dispatched. The crew consists of the hit person and cleaner. The counsellor would be a skilled sexual assault counsellor. They can attempt to detect the 4% of victims that lie (yes only 2-4% of accusations are determined to be made up). The other two are in charge of disposing the rapist. I recommend the victim try to commit the kill themself, but it is hard to do that when you are in shock or just trying to get away. So on the way out, they can just call a hotline. Talk to a counsellor and report what they remember

The counsellor can determine the trueness of the crime and the crew is dispatched.

Easy. No courts. No re-rape. No complicated funding structure. Just some mulch. Good for the environment. Great for society.

One aspect to reporting a rape is to get the person punished for it. I have solved that. Punishment--check; Public safety -- bonus check.  The other thought is that reporting is a way to get the rapist help and rehabilitation.

Look...the victim does not get a second chance to not be a victim. They have been violated. They will never get a way to unrape themsleves. So the rapist should not be allowed to have a second chance. They must have their safety and feeling of self taken away and the victim needs to feel in control again. It's only fair. All they had to do was listen to "no" or "stop" or "I don't like that" or similar.

If you don't agree with murder, then how about maiming? Just think about it....

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Slut

It is the slap in the face in high school when you didn’t go all the way, but he wanted a name for himself.

It is the kick in the stomach when your best friend decides she no longer wants to be your best friend.

It is the rape that occurs after the rape.

You slut

She’s a fucking slut

That bitch is such a slut

SLUT

my new unfavourite: I’m such a slut (said with glee)

Every time I hear this word it makes me cringe. It is as demeaning as calling a black person a nigger, a Spanish person spic, a Korean person a guk, a fat person a porker….I can go on, but you get the picture.

A woman is a slut. The word is not positive. It is not a term of endearment and only a privileged idiot would ever believe that woman can reclaim it as her own.

The word is a way to show degrading feelings towards women and it is not just young girls that are using it. I have heard grown men and women use slut as if it was not harmful. Shouting out slut when a name is stated or referring to someone’s style as slutty.  There is this new movement where girls and women proudly refer to themselves as sluts (as if it is some new form of feminism).

The purpose of the word was to put women down and it still does that.  No person is considered more seedy or worthless than the slut. That’s why she gets the name. A person finds her sexual self so repulsive that she isn’t even worthy of being called loose…she’s a slut.

Given the countless lives hurt or destroyed by this term and the weight it carries slut must be retired from our vocabulary.

First off: Women should no longer be singled out because of their sexual prowess. It is not anyone’s business what they do behind doors unless it impacts you directly. 

Second: Some women being called slut were actually sexually assault and then labelled. What gives anyone the right to re-assault them rather than help them (this goes into a much larger conversation about sexual assault and its acceptability in society). 

Thirdly: If you want to reclaim your sexual prowess and prove that you are happy living an unconstrained life, then find a new fucking word.  (unless of course you are actually ashamed of yourself. In which case you should seek other help.) Why abuse yourself when you can actually be powerful?!! Something like liberated in place of slut.

I understand that we now live in a lack luster and uncreative society, but if Oxford can add new words to its vocabulary then so can you.

Educate your damn self:
Slut!: Growing up Female with a Bad Reputation--Leora Tanenbaum (2000)

Fast Girls: Teenage Tribes and the Myth of the Slut-- Emily White (2002)

Check out the UnSlut Project: http://www.unslutproject.com/

The New Prostitution

To start, give a listen to some or all of this podcast....its interesting. Then continue to my discussion...

Podcast: Sterilize Addicts 

 (~37min)

So the podcast starts by talking about the cost of child abuse in the United States and it costs more than they spend on education. This is interesting…I think the focus should be on how little is spent on education, but that is a story for another blog. Let us talk about this Barbara Harris.  The biological mother of 6 with 4 adopted black children of addicted mothers with her organization (CRACK) that intends to prevent child abuse…..or so she claims.

The claim is that you can end a cycle of neglect and abuse by preventing addicts from having children (she also wants to set up in Kenya to control people with AIDS so that a child does not have to live in that lifestyle). So she is bribing addicted women with drug money to give up their fertility. She buys their reproductive choice with $300 for getting sterilized and $200 for birth control. Plus there is a $50 referral fee if your friend goes along (I guess drug addicts prefer to  travel to the the sterilization clinic in pair). 

No rehab, no counselling….just a desperate woman being paid to do something to her body that she would not have done sober. Who knew saving children was all about buying off other people’s reproduction?! BTW, Medicaid pays for the actual procedure....

Even if you have become clean you were a drug addict so you should prevent yourself from getting pregnant anyway. Harris does not believe that reproduction is a right.

Harris' bus,Source:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/8071664/Drug-addict-sterilised-for-cash-but-can-Barbara-Harris-save-our-babies.html

Let's be honest, this mission is not about ending child abuse- it’s too simplistic of a response. It really is more about controlling the reproductive choices of women that Harris has determined are inferior to her. Face it, when women that are homeless and drug addicted get pregnant there are very few options for them. Heck, getting pregnant was most likely the result of their lack of life options. As well, more often than not, they are not allowed to keep their children and the babies are removed from their custody at birth. 

The other part of this is-- what about the healing time? Are they just sent back
home to their unsuitable lifestyle? What about infections? So many questions.

With the money that this group is putting into “eradicating child abuse” they could support a rehab and parenting centre so that these women can get a second a chance. Provide positive support rather than enable their habit.

But we all know this is not about eradicating child abuse. Child abusers do not always live on the street; they don’t always take drugs. When you expand your thinking you realize not all people that do drugs are child abusers. Some are great with children. Some have other supports and this helps them.

I think what outrages me more than everything else is that this is a process that is specifically designed to oppress women.

Men don’t have the option of being sterilized. What about the johns that take advantage of drug addicted women; the ones who give her $10 for bareback and don't pull out.?

What about those jerks that got her pregnant in the first place.

These assholes aren’t even being arrested. Now the women have another person using them for her own selfish superego. A woman nonetheless!

Now let us get back the whole idea of ending child abuse. How about we target the source of the abuse or the addiction? Or is that too complex and not enough of a television bite? I guess it would make people realize that there are several different environments that are not the ideal for raising a child. Or maybe Barbara just likes being in control of “crack whores”…does that make her a pimp?

Further information:

Is it legal to sterilize addicts: http://people.howstuffworks.com/is-it-legal-to-sterilize-addicts.htm

CRACK Uses Unethical Tactics to Stop Women with Substance Abuse Problems: http://www.cwpe.org/node/56