Single on a Week Day

So my daytime holiday drinking buddy went away and left me to my own devices. Of course that means I get to partake in my favourite pastime of drinking alone. On Tuesday, I decided to go some place new-a local brewpub. Ok so I won't say the place, but if you read my twitter you might figure it out. Now, I've decided to analyze it from the single traveller point of view- kinda like a spy on Bar Rescue...heehee.

I walked in and was not acknowledged- yes it was busy, but a simple 'I'll be right with you' would work. I asked if I could just sit at the bar as one of the servers passed me by. At the bar area, there was no atmosphere...one small tv and a list of beers to read.... plus no social interaction from bartenders. Not a good scene to hit as a single. Even though my beer and mac n cheese were delicious, I'll most likely not go back.  I just think that hospitality is about treating the customer as though you are interested in their business and want to have them back. I did not feel that there, so perhaps I'm not the clientele they want.

Here are a few things to build your social skills behind the bar..
1.Ask relevant/stimulating questions: what brings you here, how you enjoying the flight, how's the trip going?..
2. Be sincere. Bartending is a people business, acting like you are too good for customers leaves you without any.
3. Take note of the crowd: see who is alone, see who had a birth day, be aware of the first dates, observe and upsell or suggest or chitchat appropriately,
4. And if you are a brew house...have your brew lines in stock for sale!!!

Why do this job if you're not going to do it right! (plus tips are better if you're attentive)

Really...I think I'm done with dating

So I've been on the online dating scene for a very long time. From Lava to Ashley to AFF and so on. I am finding it getting a bit childish and, since Fifty Shades came out, the NSA/FWB scene has become some odd morphed must be committed and in constant contact delusional atmosphere.

There are more men on the scene trying to have fun I guess, but want to still be in power. They use a serious amount of mind games (one guy told me I was too ignorant and had to fuck off...I'm guessing its because I did not stroke his ego in the ONE conversation we had). They do the put down thing and the whole "well we should try and just be us alone for a bit"...

FUCK YOU!!!

That is not what I signed up for. If you really think that you are a god's gift to women then find someone who has never dated or had sex before. No disappointment. Don't expect me to suddenly think that because you contacted me I must feel fantastic.....when did this become a thing and who is letting these guys think this?

Then apparently they have the right to let you know you are the stupid one for not doing what they want....I dunno...it's getting harder to find a decent partner in this mix.

The other issue I'm really struggling with are those idiots who read "Fifty Shades" and now want to fulfil some dark vanilla fantasy they read about.  (dark vanilla= vanilla things that vanilla people think are risky).

OMG!!

They ask stupid questions like "what was the craziest place you had sex" or "what is your ultimate fantasy"....

I cannot stress how stupid these things are to me. If you want to know what I am into that is fine, but don't act like I'm some show piece for you to experiment with. If you want to be taught then find a women who is into that..I am not.

For me, a partner must come with a level of maturity that includes being able to understand that my life is my life...not some chapter of a book that you will get over once you've crossed off some shit on your bucket list! I think it is very pathetic and not what I am interested in. I make this pretty clear on my profile....

Then why does it still happen....morons. I guess I have to find a new city to search through.....

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